Solving Problems with Dignity

A few weeks ago I had the privilege of joining a video conference with Donna Hicks, Ph.D, author of Dignity: Its Essential Role in Conflict Resolution. There were 15 integrative attorneys and mediators on the call from across the country, all there to learn how to...

The Talk

Death is a funny thing. We are taught at a fairly young age that “death is a part of life.” We are comfortable dealing with death in abstract, philosophical terms. Depending on our background we may talk about going to a better place, or back to the earth or we may...

Naming Elephants

We’ve all been there. Those awkward situations. Maybe at work, a big family gathering or with a group of friends. There is an undercurrent. Something that everyone knows, everyone feels…and everyone ignores. Elephants. They hunker down in the middle of a situation and...

Meeting People Where They Are

Whenever I go into a mediation I make a conscious effort to meet people where they are. What does this mean? The principle of meeting people where they are Recognizes that everyone has come into the situation from their own experiences and with their own values and...

Four Ounces

When you approach a situation, or the proverbial glass of water, what do you see? Is it half full, focused on opportunities waiting to be seized? Or is it half empty, focused on preserving what is left? Regardless or our natural inclination to view the glass as half...